Chapter Three – Shepherds,
Teeth, and Concrete
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Timothy
found his newborn sleeping and later hungry in the nursery. Timothy returned me to my recuperated mother
absent adequate nutritional tools. The
endorphins and opiates of live birth prevented much of her subsurface throe
thresholds of ripping cervix flesh remaining from her second birthing.
The
oblivious bliss of Sara’s rest during my father’s previous visit surged through
her system. It was time for my oedipal
complex buffet. My mother embraced me in
full. She nourished me with the chemical
transference of antibodies. Bacterial
growth began to balance the traffic lights to my digestive track by month nine.
The
flavor was palatable, but did not make up for the circumcision in the following
hours. That was a God damn son of a bitch. We can redirect cancers, magic basketball
players can live with HIV for twenty-five years, bring down the Berlin wall, and beam satellite
television like democracy complete with Trojan-man commercials, yet somehow we
can not quit slicing off the seventy-percent sensitivity of infant foreskins? Patients need spokesmen. Diseases need faces. Was Magic circumcised too?
The
sad part is I only think I think I know what I am missing. At least they could let me keep the cells as
a souvenir. I could make a key chain or a
miniature Christmas ornament with the excess.
(Where do they go? Pfizer probably hoarded flesh-hats to discover
Viagra. Oh, that was by accident. Charge for research. Maybe we can cure the
national deficit with a penis-growth pill. )
Maybe Jesus will tip Santa to reimburse me for obeying the rules?
Maybe
during Hanukah if one of my Jewish counterparts puts a little picture of his
foreskin on his dreidel and promises to shave his nut-sack after his Bar
Mitzvah, then God will give him less grief.
A great miracle will happen by his happy patch. The Mohel could stand in some mandated Brit
Milah.
The
order is not even in the Qur’an.
Circumcision is perpetuated in some indifference or worse celebration of
male pain shared across party lines. We
can not decide on a way to parcel out Jerusalem,
but Jews, Muslims and Christians can agree that slicing off ding-dong halos is
a good idea. I have never contemplated
such a convergence of agreement that has made me doubt Earth’s religions more.
Although
the Catholic Church takes an officially neutral stance on the matter, I guess
my parents edged on the side of theological caution in the great tradition of
reducing pondered shame by maintaining societal and religious ritual to
replicate a father’s and grandfather’s genitalia.
Dare
be it a son to deviate from his lineage?
Come now African boy you are old enough to jerk off. Let’s slice the taqiyah to prove you are a
tribe-man. Confusion founded in a
pseudo-testament to an escalation of commitment towards mythical better
health.
There
should be a Facebook page for men angry their parent’s chose to slice off most
of the nerve endings in their penis to end the tyrannical parade of replicated
paternal identity. Alas times in 1975
were such. My parents were raising me
Catholic.
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I
came home in the family Lincoln. I was
indirectly introduced to five-year-old Tim.
My grandparents Kurt and Jenifer dropped Tim off. My brother fumbled over me sleeping on a
blanket. Apparently my parents told Tim
my name, because my sibling has seemed to recognize me at varying points. I still feel I deserve to have been offered a
proper introduction.
I
struggle with social graces and common impractical practices conveying mutual
respect conducted by humanity. Maybe this
omission set the tone for my unrecognized importance of common courtesy. I have suffered a string of regrettable
uncouth deportment. If I could pick
between the circumcision and the introduction I would change the surrogate
mohel’s handy work, but under fire, what man does not try to save his penis
over his brain?
I
was baptized under St. Andrew’s name in an upside-down cross dipping. Uncle Ryan and Aunt Audrey became my God
parents. Like most religious ceremonies
my Baptism was lather, rinse, repeating pre-written commandments read from a
booklet.
In
the event of my parent’s premature exit to the highway to heaven, I think I
would have aligned with Uncle Ryan. He
was married with a child, conveying a perfunctory knowledge on the subject besides
the mandatory being a child that adults obtain by default.
My
corpulent Aunt Audrey demonstrated a consistent penchant for oral fixations
that proliferated into porcine proportions.
I sometimes pondered if her 400 pound godmother status would have led to
me being consumed accidently in a midnight sleepwalking raid. Maybe I would have ended up being her gopher
scurrying to the grocery store for marshmallows and briskets.
Ryan
Baker was an artistic man, working in construction. Ryan never finished college after knocking up
his now wife Josie with his daughter Rachael.
Rachel like most of the world’s conceived offspring was an unplanned
cannonball. She altered the tower walls
of where homes would be built, serfs would reside and taxes to the sheriff would
be paid. Such collisions are common
place.
Parallel
ineptitude permeated Ryan’s hopes. There
were not many left. The man let be for
the occasional joint, drink and night out for Monday Night Football at a local
bar. Freedoms were a matter of
perspective. He had Rachel and Josie in
that order.
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After
successfully completing the task of obtaining eternal salvation by not
conscientiously objecting to my own holy water emersion, I began learning
language. Despite my omnipresent fingers
and toes I did not feel compelled to figure out how to tally the flexible nub
on each of my appendages.
However
my parent’s squib narrative chronicling the diminutive piggy’s intrigued
me. What was this market? Why couldn’t I go there? Why was one of the piggies not sharing his
roasted bovine? Was this supposed to
teach me about the harsh realities of real-world grocery store factory-farmed
selections? My mom and dad were already
trying to get me to fend for myself and not be the one going wee-wee-wee.
Maybe
if my parent’s had not cut part of it off, I could control it better, but
apparently my mom would keep unwrapping my diaper like a prize pack and
informing me I went wee-wee again. I
kept waiting for them to yank on it when they said wee-wee and wondering, “Are
you going to pull the rest of it off too?”
Thankfully I later learned the concept of nonsense nursery rhymes, but I
still have trouble understanding why adults start children out in life with
such questionable pretenses of fiction.
I
had many questions about this game my family felt entitled to play. I had many questions. Wasn’t interrogative my favorite form of
sentence? I asked most of the questions
to myself. I was alone a lot. When I remember snapshots the scenes are me
without any faces around thinking. I
guess I should have written more down.
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My
first year was jelly-filled with Grandma Jennifer. Grandma was in charge of watching me while my
mother and father worked. Grandma
Jen-Jen knitted me booties. She read me
the living section of the newspaper.
We
watched Sesame Street. My favorite character was Oscar the
Grouch. Oscar seemed to be the only
Muppet with a punk-rock sense of questioning authority. I mean why did Mr. Hooper get to charge
whatever he wanted for apples? Where was
the free market competition? Where was
the global conglomerate chain store booting Hooper’s ass?
That
probably would have been a better lesson on life, that D is for downsize
instead of door. Jen-Jen told me Bert
was Aunt Audrey’s favorite. It made more
sense when I saw Avenue Q later in life.
My
other grandparents resided in Kansas. There were occasional collisions around
Thanksgiving and the rare weekend in Wichita. I remember the vastness of their country
house. My grandfather Arthur had a bushy
caveman beard and lived off disability and a plant pension. Grandma JoAnne baked oatmeal raisin
cookies.
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My
father Timothy went to work for an oil parts supply company. My mother Sara taught high school English to
cliques of ingrates and saints. Maybe if
a school administrator would have asked, my mother would have composed a more
diplomatic tone to overcoat the student’s potential intellectual and social
capabilities. At home my mother did not
feel the need to edit her conversations about her workday from her toddler
while spilling the bowl of her day into my father’s ears.
My
mother taught at St. Ann’s,
an all-girls Catholic school. Despite
the theme of edification of the moral soundness of America’s menstruating youth, the
recycled classes were stung with the occasional crippling pregnancies, cursive
rebellion and lesbian repression, all fantastic growth opportunities.
The
administration and parents tended to shelter, ignore, and patronize the
girls. That alienated my mother into a
sense of Ayn-Rand-objectivism-instilled apathy that preempted her from ever
truly assisting any of them. Instead mom
would bitch to dad while she fed me mommy tit.
While I can understand Sara thought her boy was probably too busy to
listen; I made multi-tasking a habit.
My
father was sidetracked from aspirations for law school after returning from Vietnam. Timothy had two mouths to feed, not counting
his own. My mom was living a
single-parent lifestyle in a pre-modern era.
My mother managed offspring and work in a way most women of her
generation found unfathomable. Most men
would obfuscate reality with the illusion that caring for their offspring
without the aid of feminine consultation was like asking a man to ovulate or
solve quantum equations to achieve space travel. Most men and women of my generation would find
this work-life equation standard. The
formula resulted in a job for most and government checks for the rest.
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Timothy
was employed by Fouchon Specialty. He
sold unions, bolts and oilfield supplies down to rigs in the Gulf. He was not the salesman type, but my father
was the put-food-on-the-table type. Dad
could learn how to do what you needed him to do. The capability to learn was there. That is all college really teaches anyway. Schooling guides us how to think so we can
learn what we have not learned yet afterwards.
Dad
was never into bantering about the idle bullshit that made salesmen great. The ability to get someone to enjoy paying
you to flow your inventory in their direction is the mark of a great
salesmen. My dad moved the goods, but
was low on entertainment, function over flair.
There
were spring-shower mushroom fields of oil and gas companies in Louisiana. Texas’
state-tax laws and proficient educational bureaucracies had not stolen the
fungi-petroleum profits yet. My dad
became a bit of an oilman on paper.
During the Jimmy Carter gas crisis my father was a yokel mouthpiece on
some local news broadcast. My dad
lambasted the Louisiana economy for going into
the tank for self-compounding reasons from corrupt local official decisions
including limiting its taxing nexus to a reduced offshore mileage compared to
other Gulf States.
People
got down on my dad for bearing the burden of bad news, but my dad shot straight
and talked about how all he could do was go to work each day and hope to make
it through. If you did not stare life
straight you were probably in denial.
Somewhere
in the enclaves of our family attic-space is a recording of Timothy Baker’s
temporary celebrity, which some how trumped Uncle Ryan’s arrest for streaking
at an LSU game while visiting one of his high school buddies. I think that was because we were not supposed
to bring football-related nudity up in mixed company.
Uncle
Ryan snuck on the field and managed to urinate on the eye-of-the-tiger in front
of seventy thousand people before getting tackled by a swarm of redneck
pigs. My uncle is still hated by the
collective purple-and-gold will of the state.
These days his testes would get tasered.
My dad being a Tulane alumnus never felt closer to him, but if you ask
Grandpa Kurt I think he only has one son now.
However, I don’t think that is why Grandpa Kurt disowned Uncle
Ryan. I think Grandpa Kurt is just a
dick.
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For
my first birthday I got a Sesame Street Count cake. My parents felt the need to light a purple-fanged
vampire on fire. I would have preferred
the cantankerous-green-trashcan Muppet.
Learning how to speak was imperative.
Maybe it was my father’s propensity for numbers or the consternation
confused as exuberance during our this-little-piggy pantomimes I displayed, but
numbers were not my thing.
I
had a yellow rolling walker that would later be deemed by the government as
unsafe for secure child development.
However I question the reverse effect on the American populace for the
trapeze-net nature of juvenile jurisdiction arbitrated by government
decry. I was an injury prone kid. I was fine.
Tim use to chase me around. When
the Grand Canyon of the step down living room
threatened I some how survived in my death-trap walker.
Christmas
was confusing. Trees were for
outside. I was not sure how I felt about
a large bearded man sneaking into our house at night. I tried to talk to our beagle Betsy about
guarding my room so the stranger would not abduct me. Despite my parent’s incessant warnings on the
day and the time he was coming, the dog was left outside by my father.
Although
Christmas-acquired fire trucks and golden books were fun, I could not read or
drive. I never understood what I did to
deserve such indulgences. My primary
accomplishments were sitting, slobbering and filling my diaper. Those seemed to be satisfactory contributions
to the family unit. However, I have never
resolved this quandary. Maybe being
bombarded with free-shit is the greatest marketing story ever told.
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I
was Tim’s little buddy. He was my
Virgil-like guide, awaiting my Beatrice.
Tim loved to give hugs. He was
far more affectionate than either of my parents. Tim resembled more of a cuddly benevolent
bear than a brother. Tim would
occasionally roll around one of my trucks or fly a Popsicle-stick airplane
around my head like Icarus.
On
Tim’s seventh birthday, mom and dad got a magician. The Great Gustav came in a Chevy Caprice
Classic Landau with a rolling trunk, top hat and cigarette aroma. Flowers appeared; a white rabbit dropped
sphincter raisins on Tim’s friend when Betsy burst from the backyard to obey
her natural instincts. The rabbit was
unharmed, but spent an intermediate internment behind our sofa. Peeking-eyed primary school students guarded
each end’s escape route while contemplating potential mammal
teleportation.
Gustav
swirled his show with a tempest of juggling, a miraculous forehead-Indian-card
trick, and slight-of-hand chicanery befitting a mall-trained Santa capable of
beguiling children en masse. The
parental patrol units in the crowd seemed to be pleased Gustav was Tourettes
free. He kept his speech to matters of
Abra, Cadabra, and fluffy bunnies. I
spent the length of the presentation on my father’s knee eating a Flintstones orange
push-up, marveling at wrapping paper and fixated on an R2D2 Star Wars
figurine.
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My
childhood transition from toddler to kindergartener was marked by few
intergalactic dramas. I choked on
boarded paper from a toothpaste box at the age of two and a half. Somewhere in my psyche the stuff still
propels a strong gag reflex despite the tube contents having little to do with
its rectangular transport prison. I also
feel the hypocritical advertisements of Fluoride as a completely positive
chemical to intersect with our bodies is largely disingenuous to the average
consumer. If it were not for the
aluminum producer’s lobby, would we even add it to our drinking water?
I
do not recall making friends well in nursery school. Something about cheerio O’s being less than
cheery when dibs were called amongst the citizenry. My mother would visit often, which was
un-cool even then. These interludes
terminated the infancy of any attempts at fostering a renegade sense of
rouge-punk-rock sensibility from the ages of five to fifteen. The track of order in obedience was
ingrained. Rules were paramount.
I
deciphered the code of reading in first grade.
I was on schedule with the aid of the public library and the Sweet
Pickles reading series. Nightingale was
no help. Fish could ride motor
cycles. Unicorn wore purses. The world was perfect. Timothy and Sara were dad and mom without
question of name, interpretative role or personal interest. Their callings were to meet my needs, put
child first and my pedestal of ignorant bliss rotated with my ass wipes between
their caring palms.
This
was until I was able to banish the call of, “Mommy Daddy come wipe my hinny,”
from our suburban hallway. I came to the
stunning realization that I could accomplish such feats of fecal remediation on
my own. It is quite a moment in a child’s
life when the impossibility of such a reach-a-round is capable of being
performed by one’s own arms. It is quite
another in adolescence when every young man finds out that God’s intelligent
design prevents other ranges of motion that may all but have lead to the
extinction of the human race. Then again
Darwin could
have been right and all those malleable pretzels-of-men have left this world
seedless.
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In
second grade I began my nondescript career into recreational-district
tax-funded sports in the realms of soccer and T-Ball. The facility was adjacent to the city sewer treatment
plant. Amongst the malodorous aroma, it
was impressed early on to me that the wishes of the positions of authority
desired that the distance from the ball to my interaction remain as great a sum
as possible. Any diminishment in this
variable would inevitably lead to the quotient of our winning percentage to
decline.
It
was therefore established that by such confluences of age, irrational or
rational judgment as volunteer coaching fathers can wield and my own random
movements between spastic and purpose-implied, I was to be more spectator than
athlete in the arenas of team sports.
Shin guards and helmets, knee pads and community-sponsored green jerseys
were nothing compared to the ignominy of a phantom catch, kick whiff or dare be
it being out-classed by a female in a co-gendered youth sports league.
The
crucial nature of these Herculean trials of a young man’s strength and prowess
were exacerbated by the indiscriminate parental bleacher cat-calls. In the coliseum paupers and beeper-belted lawyers
sat side by side arbitrating the foibles and should-have-dones of young
princes-of-men far beyond the politically lobbying input censored by the
threshold of a tax bracket.
Even
into the years when Tim played football in the tackle league all gladiator’d-up
or baseball with a man’s glove, the collective sages dispensed the
indispensable. My father, who was
typically a quiet man, would lick his lips on the blood in the water. His more apex-predator-shark nature would
dispense criticism of the referee, umpire or a “Why are you doing that son?”
inquiry to Tim. The culmination of these
events has led me to the ineffable conclusion that organized sports do not
really count as playtime.
Fun
is relative. Fathers and grandfathers
watch, judge and spin that mental comparison of generations to the field. How far did each genetic line get? Prove me well son.
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Grandpa
Kurt was a three decade member of the five-percent-nation-of-Marlboro. He was unable to run around the block without
reinforcements from Grandma Jennifer to designated-drive him back home. In his day Kurt could charge the beach, suck
smoke into his lungs and convert the carcinogens into combat fuel. Kurt was now more of a short-charging bear
hibernating in his own body. The man rarely
came out his cluttered cave. When
Grandpa Kurt did, he was a cantankerous ursa with a mark of Cain.
Kurt
never really left the house he grew up in.
His sisters were hamster-like, hunched under the newspaper whimpering in
anticipation of tipping the scales of their daddy’s temper. The garbage burrowed into Kurt’s skin like
recycled armor, abrasive, pungent, and repressive. I could not smell the cedar-cave lining when
I was younger. I now recognize the reek
as Jack Daniels and nicotine.
I
remember the illusions. My impressions
of my father, mother, and grandfather were filtered through glittering
fallacies of ignorance. They were never
kids. They never masturbated. They always knew what the fuck to do. Flustering was optional. My predecessors were shipped from the factory
with pre-programmed competence.
I
remember Grandpa Kurt was perpetually in the background sifting in between
living spaces when Grandma Jennifer took care of Tim and me. His presence was more specter than integrated
non-ghost relative. There was always an occupying
game, a meeting or a job to be done. The
inverse of these moments showed up in my father like barbed seedlings caught in
ox hairs carried to transient soil producing a different species of plant
entirely, but within the same genus.
Timothy’s
colors were blue and white. Kurt was
black and red. My father made sure I got
out into the sun-lit-sky to un-jumble the snarling disarray of genial lines to
be who I was. Dad grew up in the
reprieve, the cooling pool away from the magma.
My father saw the sanctity of silence and the safe passage of Uncle Ryan
taking the belt. Guilt dripped down hill
in that house and in inverse direction to the flames.
My
dad and my uncle do not talk much. They
get along, but there is this undercoating.
There is an understanding of the need-not-be-spoken to relinquish what
would otherwise be futile. Discussing
the past would be an exercise in repetitive psychoanalysis that would reiterate
itself in recycled masochistic conversations during family get-togethers.
Maybe
females would harass with the-need-to-know-the-why in years of cat-tailed
Sunday conversations. Mothers and
daughters can talk about earlier tragedies after dessert and coffee. My uncle and my dad knew there was no
why. There was what was.
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I
remember three things from kindergarten.
Everyone was assigned an eighth grade buddy. My default assigned friend was named
Andy. We had a story corner with a
pillow that looked like a frog and my mother recounts my near
assassination.
My
parent’s were best friends with a couple initialed in double D’s. Danny and Deidra Davenport had two sons
Daniel, Dustin and a daughter Denise. It
was as obnoxious as the alliteration sounds, but in the core the Davenport’s were
good-natured people, subject to normal human conflictions.
Daniel
and Dustin were twins around twelve.
Deidra was a toddler. The boys
were natively restless using their limbs as battering rams against each other’s
replica. Each was intent on one-upping
and staking a claim of identity despite their mother’s need to cloth the twins
as a dynamic duo during their initial maturation.
The
four of us boys were playing in the twin’s bunk-bed fortress. The squadron of parents and tethered sister
were conversing worldly matters at the kitchen table. We were rough-housing without the spackle and
measuring tape of older males. Daniel
pulled out his pellet gun from under his bed.
Dustin
in-sync with the extraction, tacked up a bull’s eye black and white target to a
space of sheetrock. Daniel bust out,
“Stand back burritos,” as he pumped the lever-based compression mechanism and
fired a tiny silver hourglass-shaped projectile into the paper popping off a
shred and leaving no major damage to the wall behind. Daniel retorted, “My turn drum stick,” and
repeated the feat, but a step further back planting his heel against the
opposing baseboard.
Tim
watched the two duel. After a third shot
rotation, Tim was convinced to try to make meat with one of the metallic
rocks. Tim’s pebble slung to the
south-east quadrant of the target. Then
it was my turn.
Daniel
grabbed a paper kid-sized Ronald McDonald cup strewn on the ground as refuse
for a ready-made archery contest. I
stood sapling-like obeying orders as Robin Hood motioned me in front of the
doorway. Daniel placed the cup on the
crown of my head. Before Tim could get
too good a look at me, Daniel reared back and fired.
I
do not recall where the pellet hit other than within earshot of my mother. I only know the pellet did not intersect with
my visual, olfactory, or auditory organs or orifices as I am sure such impacts
would have been recounted to me on numerous occasions.
The
aberration forced the mandated mayhem that ensued to justify the parental
interrogations to act as if their actions could some how do something now after
the fact in a United Nations modus operandi.
The Davenports
profusely apologized and promised fair retribution against their Hickok in the
way kings of countries offer to sacrifice one of their own to keep peace. The Davenports
and we Bakers remain friends. The story
is told jokingly on the occasion of mixed company absent my silent
conscientious objections that if vocalized would do little to prevent the
inevitable fabled retelling.
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I
attended Catholic elementary school a half-hour of traffic away from my home at
St. Bartholomew’s. This secured my
peaceful sanctuary-manger of learning segregated from taxpayer-funded New Orleans public
schooling. I only remember a few stained-glass-windowed
moments. I recall the first time I
bought my lunch tickets from the lunch lady Ms. Angie on Monday mornings in
first grade.
Ms.
Angie was part troll with sagging-dark-valance-looking crescent moons under her
eyes. The Ms. Angie troll was rotund and
smelled of meat loaf. The lights-off
cafeteria was dark in the morning. The
cave troll sequestered herself past the stainless steel serving units. She was through the cooking corridor to the
left in an office that resembled a broom closet. The would-be-maintenance-storage spot was
pungent and dank, dimly lit and unlabeled.
My
parents did not provide a map. Locating
the longitude and latitude for this mob-boss-like transaction with the ascetic
hermit of square-pan pizza and pint-carton milk was arduous. The journey was like going down into a
labyrinth in search of princess Zelda without a compass. But I had my boomerang wits and a prewritten
check from mom.
I
pulled the folded-paper banknote from my kaki pocket. Ms. Angie pulled out a treasure book
resembling the cherry-bell paper lottery tickets carnies sell to kids at street
fairs. There was one for each day of the
week. I acquired a month’s worth at a
time. Sometimes I wonder at what age
that woman died of a coronary. For
surely Ms. Angie could not have lasted long under the glut of her incredible
bulk. Although, I am sure she was
satisfactory managing the elementary cafeteria’s nutritional offerings. At
least I did not need to answer any riddles.
Maybe I could have told her in an obstreperous beguiling rebuttal that
the second grader behind me was plumper.
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I
remember in fourth grade I attended mass with my parents on a Sunday morning in
the church connected to the school. My
current teacher Mrs. Roy knelt down in the pew to the right and one in front of
us adjacent to my position. There was no
acknowledgment.
We
sat in the balcony, about as far away from the altar as a family could
sit. I had some of my first sexual
thoughts staring at my teacher’s black stocking legs and blonde hair with my
numb-peanut sack and centimeter-circumcised unit’s faux erection. I prayed to God and am still waiting on that
answer.
Also
in the fourth grade in St. Bartholomew’s Church we had this miraculous staging
of students in what is referred to as a Living Rosary. No longer were strings and beads sufficient
to regurgitate wrote iterated prayer to Jesus’ mommy and phantom-faced, but
we’re sure he’s white, inverse-sperm-donor daddy. We had to enlist the limbs and abdomens of selected
progeny of the congregation enrolled in grades K through eight.
I
was requisitioned for this festivity. To
avoid the grave injustice that God be out-smarted by a brave-winded pint dare
altering the words of these sacred incantations, there was a living-practice
the day beforehand. We assembled in a
giant rotating ring around the church in the outer aisles. Each one of us ascended heaven’s steps to a
microphone to look out over an empty assembly of pews to utter out the first
half of a Hail Mary, Our Father or the perfunctory Glory-Be. The spectators would finish our prologue in
unison in correlation with our beaded-position on their handheld rosary.
I
was called out before my turn during this afternoon training exercise. My mother picked Tim and me up early because
I had a doctor’s appointment, which negated my mother’s ability to make carpool
less than an hour later.
The
next morning the giant assembly of parents and clergy gathered with the
consecrated-student body. I repeated the
words of the Hail Mary in my head. Each
kid had to recite the preamble of the prayer.
The first two words were in the title.
The rest were being read by each preceding angel.
When
I got up to the microphone I started, transposed and attempted to start again. Somehow, “Hail Mary, bless Jesus’ fruit,
Hail…” came out. There was a cacophony
of uniformed faces laughing back at me in their reverent silence underneath
their solemn lips including Mrs. Roy.
The priest and a nun motioned me on as the next bead completed the
plaudit flawlessly. Part of me wonders
if my abomination-of-verse negated the solemn integrity of the sixty-two
beaded-symphony of prayer canceling continuity of the orders of the hundreds of
other attendee’s loaf-and-fish requests.
I
have said that prayer a thousand times in Pavolvian diction, spoken like a
tool-to-heal, to save, or to cap off a day.
Sometimes, I wonder if any of us use the right words like some cryptic
vault combination to a silently laughing arbiter behind a gate. Maybe there is a letter in a cellar under a
candle-burned bush with the genuine script.
Maybe we found it and incinerated it.
We made up our own words and fought a thousand wars over the scorched
fibers. All I know is I was always
afraid of forgetting my lines. I
developed a hard-line hesitation to ever audition for drama productions. The Hail Mary may have damned my career as a
spoken word artist.
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Throughout
my youth my mother and father took us on camping trips to state and national
parks in our pop-up camper. Maybe the
most common rendition of these would appear through adult eyes as a series of
parking spaces plopped between patches of pine trees, but to me camping was a
Dukes of Hazard big-wheel riding dirt wonderland.
I
took my G.I. Joe’s and He-men. I went
gallivanting into leaf-carpeted alcoves.
My mom and dad took the time to help me check through the natural
punch-list of childhood every kid should complete: blowing a dandelion puff,
paddling a canoe, star-gazing, burying a hidden treasure, skipping a stone,
catching fireflies, climbing a tree, and going barefoot to dig for the sake of
digging. There is something intimate to
God in the non-commercial productivity of the tasks. Whatever it is, in that kernel of being a
child, I nest within for it was born in moments like those, in a time of
solitude realizing there was just me, my own amusement and the joy held in that
seed rooting.
One
night near dusk at Devil’s Den State park in Arkansas, Tim and I were throwing our
football around the campsite. Our mother
called us into the camper. We began an
epic game of crazy-eights. Sara was
flipping grilled cheese sandwiches on the camp stove.
We
had recently returned from a hike through the woods. We posed for a picture on an assortment of river
rocks with a waterfall in the back ground with the aid of a congenial man from North Carolina. My Yoda T-shirt and Underoos were still wet
from wading in the creek with Tim. I was
around eight. Tim was thirteen and right
on the verge of transitioning his interests into teenage playgrounds.
On
the way back from the waterfall I found a fallen tree branch, which must have
nearly doubled my height in length. I
set the Sisyphus wood-hunk in my mind. I
would drag this log to the trailhead on my own. I termed it the “Ultimate Challenge.” My dad offered to help and was rebuffed. I was going to make it. “Do or do not there was no try.” So at the former entrance and current exit
point I laid the wood in what was a thump to my own ears dusted my palms and
set back to the campsite.
Back
in the game of crazy-eights, dad plopped down a jack to change the suit to
spades. A thud boomed out. We rotated
our ears to synchronize the location on our compass to due south, the road in
front of our campsite.
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There
was a standard-sized red Ford pick-up truck skid-stopped with its windshield
crackled and what appeared to be a girl about my age thrown against the glass
and a busted doe body functionally inert like a speed-bump near the right front
headlight.
My
parents ran to the idled motor crowding my view from a trail position. The pre-cell–phone plan of action was
processed with a send off of my father to the ranger station. My mother rushed to our first-aid gear which
consisted of one blue ice-chest freezer pack and functionally empty assurances
of an “everything will be ok” resolution.
The
driver was the man who took our picture with North Carolina plates. His daughter was groggy, but conscious. The girl rode off in the ranger’s truck to
proper American healthcare. Other local
camp attendees gathered in the spectator-sport of tragedy commentary. One kid spouted, “Cool look at the blood,” as
he pointed at the deer.
I
had not seen anything so large in the process of dying. The doe’s chest was undulating in a
descending rate of inflation. The skin
seemed pliable and lax. Ticks peppered
the deer’s hide, with a pale weight that my father informed me was a sign of
over breeding in a vacuum from natural predators.
The
circle of humans dwindled to abandon the deer to become asphalt-compost for
some Arkansas
state employee to process. The carcass
was gone by morning. Maybe the body was
transported to a road-kill grave as carrion for foxes, crows or saprotroph out
of public view next to an interstate sign, not meant for anyone to get too good
a look at death. Then again the heap may
have immediately ascended into heaven as soon as the final set of human eyes
turned away.
We
recollected ourselves back inside our camper.
The night dragged. The card game
never got finished. We ate and scratched
our limbs from an apparent chigger infestation.
By morning my legs looked like scatter-shot riddled with red bumps. My parents informed me the malady was curable
by nail polish. Maybe Maybelline is an
old Indian panacea. My father always
thought he was a Cherokee in a past life.
Maybe it was in his blood to know such medicinal nostrums.
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Around
this age Grandma Jennifer and Grandpa Kurt’s house was our default babysitting
base camp. My parents went to a late
night dress-up costume dance as Kermit and Ms. Piggy complete with
spray-painted green flippers and a string snout. After we were in bed I wandered to my
grandparent’s room for assistance after a broken toilet in the hall rendered me
incapable of completing my typical restroom routine.
The
plumbing backed up. Being the
over-adamant “address problems now” sort of child that I was, I ended up
compounding the clog by attempting to alleviate the malady myself in order to
eschew any remedial consequence from Grandpa Kurt. In my desperation, I acquiesced for the aid
of elders. Armed with my
end-of-my-first-decade wisdom, I opened Grandma’s bedroom door and caught my
grandparent’s having sex.
For
a child of my age this was tantamount to Guantanamo Bay
water boarding, only to potentially be exceeded by uncovering a scenario of one
generation lower in my own home. I
imagine the inverse of being caught masturbating by one of these counterparts
in later years would have been eminently more discomforting. So as with most things I count myself lucky
for things not being worse.
The
two wrinkled porcupines quit moving. I
assume they were both crack naked since my grandfather was stooping my
grandmother from the rear. I did not
have time to get the question out. I
involuntarily viewed, retreated and closed the door without verbal recognition
by any party involved.
The
toilet remained un-flushed. The shit sat
there like a beaver dam. I assume
Grandpa Kurt resolved the matter of burying the unsightly remains in due
course, because none of it was ever discussed.
Grandma Jennifer made animal pancakes with a gazelle and a rhino for
breakfast.
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My
best friend growing up was my next door neighbor Robert. Everybody called Robert, Bortz, because he
was like the fourth in a line of identically-named progeny. Ostentatious sounding nicknames probably
codified family reunions. Bortz was a
year younger and indemnified from utilizing neighborhood kids as
first-choice-friend options. His parents
enrolled him in a cornucopia of programs: baseball, violin, drama camps all in
preparation to be some enhanced clone that would matriculate through St. Ignatius
High School and pop out the other end
in the Ivy League.
These
activities kept Bortz busy with six-degrees-of-separation connections, but
where I lived Bortz was what I had. He
was in and out. I solo-raced my
blue-and-yellow BMX around the neighborhood.
I peddled faster and faster past the lawn mowers, peeking into the white
over-cluttered garages, the porch settlers and the free-range dogs shitting at
will.
This
was a time before bike helmets were feasible.
We called this one kid Mushroom Head for wearing one. Silly parents thinking they were helping. Nobody played with that kid or at least nobody
wanted to venture past the shelter barrier his parents erected.
During
one 1980’s summer, Nintendo hit big.
Atari had been around, but Nintendo was paradigm shifting. Kids still played outside before then: freeze
tag, street football with the drainage grates as end zones and snowball-stand
runs. All these prepubescent boundaries
were on the verge of obliteration. I
made a trade with Bortz, unbeknownst to either of our parental units: his
Batman for my Metroid Nintendo game.
The
Batman was found at the Family Dollar and impossible to locate afterwards. For some reason I wanted the caped crusader
like a hold-on to all those days in the forest, still capable of
reenactment The cowl-covered figure had
a yellow utility belt complete with a drawstring to a concave crescent-molded
piece of plastic that could stretch and serve as a grappling hook. The toy had a cape, four limbs and
nonfunctional bat ears. Basic Batman was
exchanged for a fifty dollar Nintendo game; a new world plaything for a novelty
act.
The
only problem was in the lockdown. Such
rebel ruses can only perpetuate for so long before parents smell the
disturbance in the force. A few weeks
later, Sara and Bortz’s mother figured out the Faustian bargain and demanded we
trade back. The only problem was that in
the interim Deidre Davenport came over with her family. Deidra picked Batman up and used the
grappling-hook belt as dental floss, popping the line. The Batman had to go back to Bortz’s
cave. The dark knight I had to send was
out of commission. Handicapped Bruce
Wayne departed and my best friend de-bested me canceling the one-sided
equation.
The
kid blamed me thinking I broke the belt on purpose. Where the fuck was eBay to salvage such
clusters? Bortz spent the rest of the summer
avoiding me and not answering the door when he was not off camping or
practicing to be baseball Jesus. Come
late August a Mayflower moving van arrived.
Bortz’s family moved away to some undisclosed location, in some other
bat-time on some other bat-channel.
I
remember driving up in the back of my mom’s Astro minivan to our house as the
moving truck was parked. Bortz was
outside. I waved to him through the
window. I walked towards my house. Bortz would not even acknowledge me. That was the last time I ever saw the best
friend I ever had growing up.
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After
that I started hanging out more with this kid Charlie. Charlie had the bane of too much rope in the
bungee-chord of adolescence. His mother
was skittish and aloof, smoked a pack a day and drove a Z28 two-door with three
kids and no father remaining in the picture.
The house was randomly unfurnished with large expanses of carpeting
littered with objects that generally get bundled in closets.
Charlie
watched Freddie Kruger and shot fireworks in the middle of spring. At one point, I remember Charlie had a donkey
roped up in his backyard while he made lawn-doughnuts with his motor bike next
to a green mosquito vat former swimming pool, but Charlie did not start out
that way.
I
remember these moments of hanging out with Charlie, like windows into how other
kids grew up. Being around Charlie was
like a litmus test for the boundary of what the loosest sense of parental
behavioral modification would do to a house of three brothers by the time the
youngest hits puberty.
There
were men though; hobo-men coming and going on the fringe. I did not know until I was older, but some of
the men abused him. We ended up hanging
out in high school one random confluence of paths night out by the levee during
our junior year. Charlie talked.
A
few of them would leave him alone, but apparently going inches deep into a
boy’s mother is not enough to fuck over for some men. This guy Steve was slapping him around after
all the beer was drained from the fridge.
Six-year-old Charlie bit into the man’s thigh, clenched like a vice of
pre-wisdom teeth until the flesh frayed.
The mark sunk in and left Charlie knocked out with a purple knot from
Steve’s massive knuckles. Steve ended up
getting arrested after Charlie showed up at school, but as always there was a
replacement. Man after man, none of them
hit Charlie that bad again. Most just
ignored Charlie and his brothers to bone his mom.
Charlie
got hit on both ends too. Around nine a
neighbor sexually abused him. The guy
made Charlie touch him. Like any
shit-scum who has read the predator’s handbook, the asshole told Charlie, “If
you tell anyone. I’ll kill you. I’ll make sure no one will believe you.”
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When
I was around twelve, before I knew all that shit, one Monday Charlie and I were
out riding bikes in this park the city made out of an abandoned par-three golf
course. There was a former water hazard
that became a bullfrog pond, random wooden outdoor exercise equipment, a
basketball court without any nets and a backstop for baseball. A running track was available most of the
time for preteens like us to scoot around on our bikes and for taxpayers to
jog.
We
rode our bikes with a basketball to go shoot hoops. Learning to ride your bike without needing to
hold on to the handlebars is another item on the bucket list of childhood. We did not hang out much, but Charlie was one
of the only kids left my age in the neighborhood.
I
missed a shot. The ball rebounded over
the catty-corner fence of a house that backed up to the park. It was Charlie’s ball so we exited the park,
rode to the doorbell and rang for a potential retrieval. A just-past-middle-aged woman came to the
door. After obtaining an understanding
of what had transpired, the woman led Charlie and I to a wooden-gate.
Two
German Shepherds barked incessantly inside the fence. We knew the dogs were there because we could
see the dogs through the shooting-lane panels of sight between the fence boards
from the court. The dogs reported the
existence of any basketball or jogging activity on a regular basis to those
within earshot. We saw the ball in the
corner. The lady led Charlie and I
inside and commanded in a firm tone, “Rex, Auga, heel.” The two dogs moved to the high-heeled shoe of
the woman with a collar in each hand.
Charlie
set foot on an expedition towards the orange sphere. As Charlie picked the ball up, Auga bolted
loose. The matriarch gripped the other
dog by the collar in a V-legged-angled restraint, but could do nothing but bark
back at the other shepherd. I stood
stone-footed witnessing the first exchange.
The lady told me to run to the neighbor’s for help.
Auga
leaped up on Charlie and snagged his calf, then his arm. Charlie started screaming. I pounded on the neighbor’s door and yelled,
“Help the dog is attacking Charlie.”
Some useless offspring was first to the entry way and summoned his
father who could hear the screaming pouring in the foyer. The man sprinted in purposeful motion,
smacked the fuck out of Auga, ripped the dog off of Charlie and reined the
canine by the collar.
Charlie
zombie-stumbled to the driveway as we waited for an ambulance. The humane man’s wife alerted
authorities. I remember seeing Charlie
whimpering and not knowing what to tell him.
I was never the kind of person to provide false senses of security to
pander to an idealistic truth that eschewed the reality of a situation.
The
sight of Charlie’s thigh reminded me of fish flesh. My dad caught a King Mackerel out in the Gulf
one summer and cut it open in front of me with this shimmering spread of green
and red. There was a fold where muscle
was supposed to connect.
The
paramedics came and took Charlie away. I
did not know Charlie’s phone number, but the neighbor called my folks who got
in touch with Charlie’s mom eventually.
I saw Charlie a week later. He
was stitched up with black-twine cross marks.
We did not talk much about the incident.
We were not even that good of friends, but I do remember that long bike
ride back to my house holding Charlie’s basketball.
I
wondered what if I had not missed that shot.
What if I had manned up and found a stick to bat the dog? I wonder how much that neighbor just wanted
to take it out on those animals. Those
beasts must have barked non-stop. Did he
garner some perverse satisfaction by dominating the smaller mammal? I wonder if that lady had to put the dog to
sleep. Once an animal obeys its true
genetic nature it tends to mandate its own destruction.
After
that Charlie kind of went his own way with the motorbikes and the
fireworks. His mom let him get the farm
animals in his backyard. Charlie pretty
much got to the point where he could do anything he wanted and went through
these stages of nonsensical adolescent behavior.
One
time we rode grocery carts down the grass by the local canal. Charlie taught me how to make myself faint by
holding my fingers over my throat and my temples. I got dizzy and never really tried it
again.
Between
then, Charlie’s introduction to drugs and that time out by the levee we lost
touch until a random afternoon in my thirties.
Charlie ended up knocking up a girlfriend his junior year in high
school. The two are still married. Charlie is a lieutenant in the Navy.
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High
school was a long way off. I was eleven
and on the threshold of junior high school.
I made good grades. I never asked
for help with my studies. The scholastic
part of school was straight forward. Tim
hung out with me, even when he had other options. It was rare for me to be chosen.
We
played Nintendo. Tim was a wizard at
Super Mario Brothers Three and showed me how to use the raccoon tail to take
out the turtles. Tim would let me sit in
and listen to some of his heavy metal cassettes and introduced me to Metallica,
Nine Inch Nails and Pantera.
I
was getting into comic books. Kids in my
class started collecting these Marvel collector cards: Spiderman, the X-Men,
Captain America,
etc. One night it was Tim and me’s turn
to do the dishes. I was lying on the
floor of my room reviewing my card collection.
Tim knocked on my door. I told
him five minutes. I never came. Tim
returned and let me know it was time to go because I was holding him up.
I
ignored Tim. He asked to get a look at
one of my cards. He reversed over past
the doorway and said, “Ethan if you don’t get through this door right now. I am going to bend this card.” I didn’t move and he did. Tim bent my Cyclops card. This mono-vision laser blasting leader of the
X-men had a diagonal slash across the top left border.
I
was upset. I felt like Tim had no right
to do what he did. It was one of the
only times I ever remember being angry with Tim. Tim apparently had already done the dishes by
himself when he came to get me and was just going to tell me after I got
up. All he wanted was to see that I
would keep my word and respect him enough to make the effort to provide my
assistance. I always remember that
line-in-the-sand feeling my brother gave me.
The choice, that there is one and with each divergent path on the choice
made there is a consequence, so often unseen and unpredicted.
I
keep my word. Maybe it was trivial. Maybe Tim was being pedantic in all this
life-learning I needed to catch up on.
Maybe it was trite or sadistic on some level to an eleven-year-old
me. But all that is relative and
frivolous to some kid in Kenya
or Sierra Leone
picking coffee or asked to hold up an AK for the R.U.F. I was worried about a make-believe warrior on
a piece of cardstock. Imaginary laser
beams do not compare to gunshot screams.
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I
switched schools from Catholic to public in junior high to attend Troy
Middle. My mother switched jobs to teach
at the school after a final falling out with the St. Ann’s administration around the time my
dad lost his job. We needed the
money. I still went to church. I still did all the kneeling and witnessed
the transubstantiation of grain circles into abdomens. I just did not do it alongside a parochial
setting. I was glad to go to public school.
New Orleans was a different breed of city. New Orleans is
the land of Homer Plessy’s past, the failed
political statement train car tripping up this nation into legalizing
separate-but-equal. We were trying to
prove how wrong separate-but-unequal was.
Treme and Albion Tourgee, Plessy’s lawyer set in the crosshairs. We were the largest population of free blacks
in America and in the
aftermath, New Orleans
created this double-tiered system with a mask of religion to perpetuate the
decree of the Supreme Court that lingers today.
We
created two Universities of New Orleans a mile apart that only came into mutual
existence because of that train car. In
times of financial stress the State tried to consolidate them, but it was like
trying to un-wrap a ball of tangled fishing line with a fish hooked on both
ends.
The
public schools were a train-wreck.
Unless you were in the gifted and talented program and segregated from
most of the madness like I was. Life
could get a bit chaotic, but then again it was more reality than chaos. Isn’t reality what schools are supposed to be
preparing you for?
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My
first year at Troy,
I got in a fight the Monday before Christmas break. I did not even throw a punch. Others may call the altercation a fight in
concept. I think of the exchange as a
moment of awakening of the lines others were right-on-the-border ready to cross
if given the minutest conceived provocation compared to this grid-of-rules in
my head.
The
grid stated, “Do not hit. Do not break
the rules. Turn your cheek and maintain
civil obedience.” My three front teeth
got knocked out. In my mind I imagine
some compatriot of the opposing party was holding my arms back over the tennis
ball we were apparently dueling over in the schoolyard. In reality I was in my own self-imposed rules
straight jacket.
His
group of friends took a ball away from my group. I was in the enviable position to try to grab
the ball off the concrete after an errant keep-away pass at the same time as a
kid in my algebra class who I had never even spoken to who was about to become
my unrequested combatant.
As
our hands met, I held on to that yellow sphere a fringe too long. The kid cocked back his right arm and plowed
into my face, grabbed me by my European hair and took his left and slammed my
mouth into the ground with a truculent fury.
A
circle of jeering and ring-side commentators formed. Before I could even get up the bout was
over. No administrator came. No comrade aid. The bell rang everybody just went back to
class, except for me.
My
mom was off campus training. I wandered
into the main building and headed for the principal’s office. I guess the authority could see I needed a
doctor. I do not remember
conversing. All I know is my mother came
back to the school and we went to a dentist.
The
other kid got suspended for two days. I
got a junior-high flipper denture with makeshift temporary teeth until I was
old enough to get implants in college.
Somewhere the grid rules and the Cyclops card were still intact.
I
had my limbs. My ego was never really
big enough to notice whether anybody was concerned enough to detect a
difference in my stride upon my return from Christmas break. Math class was great. We never spoke. The position of our desks allowed us not to
have to have direct visual contact outside the provisional entry and exit. I did learn the foil method.
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In
eighth grade I got to know Sidney. Sidney
was a curly brunette with blue eyes and a bit of an overbite, about two inches
shorter than me. As in most cases of
male female interaction such a differential is like one of those height bars
for drive-through overhangs, which indicates a maximum height of an acceptable
vehicle that can fit under an awning.
Girls
seem to have a reverse one of those in their heads that involves equations with
shoes and heeled footwear, picture scenarios and overall levels of
interest. Later in life these equations
formulate out in variables of height to required income streams to
compensate. I guess I am glad I made it
through algebra alive. I just wish I had
not quit growing taller after my sophomore year of high school.
Sidney was not the most popular or beautiful, but clearly
was a step up from my standing in terms of social discourse. Sidney
was integrated into the matrix that allowed her access to tiers of
socially-adept kids with out-of-classroom acumen beyond my reach. Sidney
was trailing off an interest in a taller freshly-Bar Mitzvah’d kid Elijah, who
had the indelible star-crossed notorious historical-moniker as the only
identifiable Jew.
Sidney accidently starting talking to me one day after
English. She was the kind of girl who in
the setting straddled that line of conformity.
Underneath Sidney
was a suicide girl painted beneath her skin.
That inner-inked element of Sidney
was waiting for that time when a girl can own her own decisions. The color of that sentiment might not have
been needled-on yet, but the precursor was there. It drew me in.
We
started conversing during lunch. We
often would skip the formality of consuming nutritional-intake to hoard
parentally-obtained lunch-money to use as spending cash. This was an investment strategy that lingered
on for me through high school.
Sidney wrote me these only-girls-could-fold notes on violet
hued paper written in bubble pen script in a flowing legible-speak. Sidney
was my first girlfriend. I was a notch
in a line for her for that time in four of nine weeks in the spring of junior
high.
We
talked over my chorded-white plastic-mold telephone. Sidney spouted
intricacies of her local New Orleans waitress
mother and foreign father in Portland
Maine. Sidney
was a star on the midway dancing with her friends with an imbedded
insecurity. I was like a boy with an
empty glass pressed between my ear and a closed white-wash door dissecting a
hidden world I did not understand the operations or the cogs in the
clocks.
Sidney knew about non-parental transport and pop genres even
if she declined to listen to or cultivate the generic format in private. Sidney seemed
to know something of drugs in the sense that Sidney had friends who did them and at least
tested the line of stimulating the murk in the water to see if it cleared after
ankles were wet. I have never to this
day even gone as far as setting a cigarette to my lips. I drink, not a drunk, but I drink. I mean life’s shit. Smoking, snorting, injecting and free-basing
just seem like life-hijackers.
Maybe
there was some line in the grid like a mouth-guard pretending to be my friend
keeping me from experimenting with drugs.
It certainly wasn’t Nancy Reagan.
Time past, that traditional adolescent window was gone before the
flutter feathers of reconsideration could return from migration.
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Sidney
and I had one official date to a movie theater to see “Big”. I nervously prepared for the occasion by
wearing one of my heavy-metal band T-shirts, which would surely indicate my
devotion to all things deafeningly defiant.
Sidney
was a big hard rock fan at least on the girly end: Poison, Kiss, Motley Crue,
Ratt. Somewhere in the balance of that
scale involved me draped in Metallica garb.
I
passed my tongue over the roof of my mouth about a hundred times evaluating the
flexibility of my upper flipper denture harnessing my central and left lateral
incisors. I was confounded by the odor
of the appliance. I was still getting
use to having geriatric mouth-wear in junior high with no guide on how to
operate and maintain the oral stalactite.
Sidney showed up to my house in a green wool sweater and
blue jeans. Her hair was curly in a
bushy-sort-of-way to each side that partitioned a view of her blue eyes. She had a turquoise birthstone ring and shoes
only a girl would remember the term for.
Her mom dropped us off at the theater.
We sat in the right-rear quadrant of a sparsely attended showing of a
movie most of the world must have already seen.
There
was perfunctory conversation and veiled attempt at watching the set up minutes
of the movie. We turned towards each
other and I had my first kiss. The
physical marker was made and left within skipping seconds leaving a prevailing
wind to clear the path to France. In the landing on Normandy her tongue must have clipped a
molar or a rouge bicuspid clamping up my denture. The pink-palate spider-web of teeth came
unlatched. The space became quickly
crowded like the swelling hull of the Titanic.
Rose floated away on a stray drifting door and Jack descended.
Sidney did not realize what happened. Girls of that age are not bound to ask
clarifying questions in fear of cascading the flood of two-sided
embarrassment. We returned to
pre-standard positions, watched toy magnate Tom Hanks trail-tale home in clown
shoes to a sentimental-pedophile Elizabeth Perkins. But then again every young boy has fantasies
about older women whether we verbalize them or not.
Sidney
and I contractually dated for about a week longer. She ceremoniously dumped me in a pocket note
because I had officially changed in bold-printed letters with triple exclamation
points.
Sidney
moved to St. Petersburg Florida after school let out. I kept every note she ever gave me like
historical artifacts. The pages were
testaments that she existed and was not a ghost I dreamed up to respond to a
fracturing prayer.
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The
rest of my time at Troy
was marked by being a fringe member of a Quiz Bowl team, Spanish class
fieldtrips to a Mexican buffet restaurant, and a friendship with a Hispanic
Jehovah’s witness named Rafael who taught me that wearing skull-metal shirts
around his father was a ticket to eternal damnation. Rafael went to services ten hours a week and
was left out of the questionable beneficial treasure hauls of birthdays and
Christmas. I never understood why
everyone gets a gift on someone else’s mandated birthday, except for the fact
that somebody else did it first. So like
most historical practices not enough people complained so it became gospel.
For
a while my parents kept a camping trailer in our driveway and allowed my
associates and me to hold sleepover-adolescent-male festivals until dawn. The nights were basically one big fart joke
of playing Nintendo, dares and impersonating people who knew more than up, up,
down, down, left, right, left, right, B, A, select start got you thirty men in
Contra. A few times we would shit and
piss in Ziploc bags and leave the feces on people’s automobiles or
doorsteps. Yes, it was juvenile. Yes, it was gross. No, humans, monkeys, and lions are not that
different; at least not the twelve-year-old male versions.
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My
grandpa Arthur died in Kansas
the summer after my eighth grade year.
He was sixty-one years old, past his expiration date by some accounts,
premature by most. The coffin was
blanketed in a tightly-tucked American flag.
There was a traffic jam of adults I had neither the capability nor
inclination to decipher who they were or why they were there. I guess I was there, so I could remember that
I was there. I learned more of the man
after his death than before.
Grandpa
Arthur’s heart gave out. Most of his
body was obedient, but that purple heart was treacherous and opinionated. There was no clogged artery, no formula
computing to cholesterol anomalies or plaque, just a muscle that missed a
registered spasm. Arthur went blue while
Grandma JoAnne was out with the ladies auxiliary. JoAnne found him sprawled pants down face to
the floor in the bathroom. Pissing or
masturbating, it was not clear, but however it ended someone made the executive
decision to belt him up for the funeral.
I
wonder why adults dress corpses. We come
into this world naked, yet leave it clothed.
Do the morticians dress a body prior to cremation? Is it such a poor site to have shlong
viewings as part of the deceased? Aren’t
we there to see death? Do we not want
that good a look to see a human body as it is, either wrinkled, bloody or
young? I think I want a full-nude
cremation attended by no more than two or three. Play a song.
Let me out, but see me as raw in this irrelevant external shell as I
am. If not then, then when?
I
ponder the arrogance of those willed into cemeteries and the petty selfishness
under misguided respect of the families of the dead who hock the bereaved body
in an auction of condolence. Irrelevant
arbitrary formalities swim like mosquitoes. Morticians inject embalming fluid to drain the
true blood for a plastic-doll push flush face with glossed-glass eyeballs like
a taxidermist’s deer.
Let’s
hang grandpa on the wall. Let’s board
G-paw up like Christ, but put him in a suit to show dignity. Little Jimmy should not see his dong and
testicular sack. He might want to make a
little keep-sake souvenir out of his pubes.
A bird’s nest would be nice or maybe a keychain? Oh, nudity is much too dangerous!
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Burn
me. Incinerate me into an efficient dust
pyre! Dirt devil suck me up. Spread me into soil. Save me in a casserole dish or roll me into
cigarette papers and send me to George Lucas’ Edutopia in a cigar box marked
death sticks and make up a story that I died of lung cancer instead of heart
ailments.
In
all iterations make the dusty grit you consider a remnant me, a truth only in a
misguided memory. Acknowledge the
fallacy. Define death and make it real. This body is only a shell of exculpated
tortoise with a hundred year expectancy flopped in a coffin to appease the
living. What happens in the ground is
rudimentary biology. Life is returned
long ago. So please do not put on a
carnival. Funerals are not for the
dead. That is why I do not attend them
whenever possible.
We
measure out some kind of tragedy scale by the age of the deceased based on how
many days we collectively feel as humans that the dead deserved to keep
breathing to balance out how long we feel we deserve to live with our own fear
of dying “too soon”. The scale rarely
balances and Grandpa Arthur was no exception.
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At
the reception, Grandma JoAnne was a recalcitrant widow. She hovered around the house with cucumber
sandwiches and seven-layer-taco dip.
People kept asking her to slow down and let them get that. Joanne was defiant with a harlequin
smile. Aunt Audrey was beached on the
sofa with a handkerchief from her father’s collection blotting her eyes. Mom seemed to be the organizer, informing
various parties about bathroom facilities.
I guess so they could leave flowers by the shrine, sort of like Elvis
and Graceland.
None
of them really stopped. There was no
toast. No jazz music, certainly no Kansas second-line. There was just this crumpet and
tortilla-chip-mashed combination of characters.
We were there for three days.
I
used the same toilet. At least it
flushed. I saluted one of my shits to
pay my respects. I guess Grandpa Arthur
would rather it this way, us all just moving on. Maybe a drink or a tear or two, but in the
end business has to get done. Get the
fuck over it and live. Spit the
bit. Cemeteries are lobbies.
On
the flight back to New Orleans,
my mother talked about her brother Adam.
Sara told me when he was little he liked to play Cowboys and
Indians. Most of the time she would blow
Adam off. Adam would run around with
sticks like a makeshift bow and arrow firing off in the front lawn. My mom kind of ignored him because those were
boy games.
After
Adam died, Grandpa Arthur grew a beard for one year and shaved it off on the
anniversary of his son’s death. My mom
thought maybe it was like a protest or like a bear in winter, because the
family never really talked about Adam at least not in front of Grandma JoAnne
and Aunt Audrey. Mom and Grandpa Arthur
would sit and have a moment or two, but for the most part what was there to
say? Maybe grandpa just needed to go in
his cave for a while. Mom gave me a hug
and said, “You never know how much time you have. Do you want some peanuts?”
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